Monday, January 21, 2013
Cleaning House - Book Review
One day while Kay was driving her kids to school her oldest son (then age 15) remarked that when he got his drivers license he planned on getting a sweet Ferrari. After Kay finished choking on her own saliva, she came to the very real conclusion that her children were crippled by youth entitlement. Her son was pretty clueless about how possessions were given and acquired --other than the obvious: Mom and Dad. Kids generally assume that parents provide, on demand, not only the necessities but the wants and desires of a kids life. While this is true, Kay realized that it should only be true to a point. It was after this smack in the face that Kay decided to make a change in her household and rid her home of youth entitlement.
Embarking on a 12 Month Experiment Kay, began cleaning house. To do this she had to change her expectations and require her kids to step up and help around the house. Teaching her children how to do chores and then standing back and expecting them to work was the first thing she tackled. Kay also realized that her kids were intimidated by trying new things because it was easier as the Mom to step in and do it or them, or to shuffle the kids off because that chore might be too difficult. To combat this Kay had to critically examine her own behavior and override her habits and actually allow her kids to try -- and sometimes fail. Ultimately over 12 months she taught her kids 12 lessons ranging anywhere from cooking dinner to getting a job (obviously for her older child). Sometimes they complained...sometimes they were excited. Eventually all her children learned how important it is to pitch in and help around the house.
I really enjoyed reading this book. Not all of it applied to me because my kids are still really young but the idea that kids today are all confused by this sense of entitlement was really eye-opening. This book isn't so much a self-help book that teaches you how to teach your kids to do chores, more so it is a book that touches your heart and helps you, as a parent, want to train your child to be service minded and have an attitude of gratitude for what they have. Wonderful read! Loved it!
Disclaimer: I received this book free of charge from Blogging for Books in exchange for an honest review. I was not required to love it even though I totally did!
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